Im dating a virgin
Society views men as sex-crazed – willing, able and ready to have sex with anything that stands still for longer than a minute - but in reality, it’s easier for an older man to end up a virgin than you think.
Sometimes it’s deliberate: for religious or moral reasons, some men don’t believe in sex before marriage.
I really hope you can help me with this predicament.
About a month and a half ago, I met this guy at a bar, the day after I had just ended a very short and confusing juvenile relationship.
Now I’ll admit – I don’t fully understand the virgin until marriage thing.
I don’t understand why a man would prefer someone with no sexual experience whatsoever.
Maybe he was shy or didn’t find it that easy to get a girlfriend until much later than everyone else.
Terrified he’ll embarrass himself, he avoids making any sexual advances at all.
I hadn’t even agreed to be his girlfriend at this point. I freaked out at this point, and withdrew a little. I’ve answered questions from virgins before and really feel for them.Somehow, by not being with anybody, you’ve turned yourself into even MORE of an object, the shiniest apple at the top of the tree. Wealthy men are always on the lookout for golddiggers, with good reason – they’re often very good at masking their intentions. The second he heard you were untouched, your value to him skyrocketed. He IS going too fast, he DOES seem insincere, and you DON’T want to be objectified because you’re different. I’m not a feminist, but the way I see it that attitude makes commodities out of all women. And this guy is scrambling to climb it as fast as he can. Others see it as something special and don't want it diluted with several partners or want to marry a virgin and figure if they expect her to be, they should be too.For others, it’s accidental: this guy simply missed the point when everyone else did ‘it’.