How to handle dating someone with a child
The single parent dilemma is felt the hardest by the children, and as a product of such a household I am lucky enough to have this insight in my dating life.
Many guys just don’t know how to deal with a child that isn’t theirs and it becomes immediately evident to the child, even when the mom is disillusioned into thinking that the guy is perfect.
Kids can be great bonuses to meeting someone new and they can also be nightmares just as easily.
When a man gets older he realizes that the chance of meeting a childless woman thins dramatically and the question of “how” may come to his mind in dealing with a child that isn’t his.
Ladies listen, this man did not get used to a kid screaming like you did, he was not kept up nights tending to the crying and projectile poop, he isn’t seasoned in this.
Above all else, including your want for a mate is your child’s safety.
Engage the child in conversation when he/she’s around but make it natural conversation, not forced conversation.
Take it slow and be yourself, help out when you can, or when you’re asked, and the number one thing is to be good to their mom.
Being a boyfriend who openly bombs on mom in front of the kids or being that guy breaking mom’s heart will forever lock you into asshole mode in their minds and you will never get over it.
You may need to run some sort of background check or something to know what kind of temperament the guy has.
A suave, zen-like guy who can hold in his inner lion is great but if you have a temper tantrum throwing lunatic around your baby, you need to drop him like a bad habit.