Dumb dating advice
Hopefully, you have a few close friends who’ll try to understand your new lifestyle. So if you can’t remain true, forget the whole thing and move on with your lives. Then, after falling in love with a medic, this changed, and it really caught me off gaurd. Certain movies, television shows and video games were suddenly off limits in my house, because they disturbed him or gave me nightmares. This is true of any relationship, but it can mean so much more to a soldier. His name is Eric, we’ve been together for almost 2 years and I’ve known he wanted to become a solder since the day we started dating. But I feel like the Army doesn’t care about the girlfriends, only the wives and children of the soldiers. I’m proud of my soldier and I tell him that in every letter.I was watching an episode, and suddenly, it hit me harder than it ever had before. Get ready to make concessions in this department, for his comfort and for your own mental well-being. Be it baking him a batch of cookies to take back to base, writing him a letter (snail-mail) every week or even every day he’s overseas, or simply shrugging it off when he has to cancel a date last minute because he just found out he’s got an early call the next morning, doing little things that may seem insignificant to you will matter so much to him. When we first got together, I was very skeptical about dating a guy who was going to leave me to start his career. It is my understanding that if something were to happen to me (heaven forbid), he wouldn’t even know about it until someone wrote to him. I joined this site because no one I know understands how hard this is. ***** Hey to everyone my name is Perrie or Perrie Leigh which ever u prefer, people call me both.Truth be told, it’s hard for them to turn this off.That coupled with the stress and exhaustion that comes with Army life can make it hard for him to spend lots of time planning things for the two of you to do together.My boyfriend does his laundry at my house, and before he leaves for the week, I like to tuck love notes into the pockets of his feild gear that he can find later. When we pulled up we got out of the car to go inside the house to say hey to everyone and as we were going upstairs to the front porch Nicole and Jami (the 2 girls I was with in the beginning) started talking to this guy that was talking to Kalea, the other girl we were picking up.
Right after that he enlisted into the Army and we lost touch.
Curious as to what I was in for, and wanting some solid guidance, I went looking for advice on how to be a good Army girlfriend. However, in my own time as an Army girlfriend, I’ve come upon a few revelations of my own. Dating a soldier is a commitment, and not one to be taken lightly. Above all, talk to people who’ve lived it and ask them to be honest. If you’re not ready for to be an Army girlfriend and all that it entails, break it off. As soon as my guy used the g-word, I hit the keyboard and called my sister-in-law (retired Army wife extraordinaire). Soldiers work long hours that they have absolutely no control over. If you’re one of those girls who always needs a guy on her arm, get used to disappointment. You’ll have time for your friends, family, hobbies and work. And odds are, one of the reasons his time with you means so much to him is because it’s one of the few times he can get away from that life. My boyfriend and I have plenty to talk about, from video games to the funny cashier at the grocery store, and I never bring up the Army to any extent greater than asking him how his day went. If your man is ready to introduce you to the guys in his unit and/or regiment, it’s a big step.
What follows is some humble advice on how to cope with being the significant other of soldier. If you and your soldier are ready to enter a relationship, make sure you know exactly what you’re getting into. Both gave me a wealth of knowledge I otherwise would not have had. The time he has for you will be dictated by someone else entirely. Concentrate on these, and appreciate the time he’s allowed to have with you. And when he does let me in on the other things, I try to listen and not pry. Men who are stationed together are often closer than brothers. Don’t cling to your man like a backpack, and don’t emasculate him in front of his guys.
My boyfriend is a soldier in the United States Army. Understand that these guys have to deal with things that the average person couldn’t imagine.
Though I’m no stranger to military men (my grandfather, father and brother were all enlisted), this is the first time I have dated a soldier. I’ve seen a lot of websites that list ten things an Army girlfriend should remember and do, and some of them made great points. And your honey could be shipped out at any time, for months or years. Many of these are difficult and sometimes disturbing. If he wants to talk about his life in the Army, be it the crazy times with the guys in his unit, the tedium of the everyday, or even the tougher times, let him be the one to broach the subject.